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Currently workin my fingers to the bone on this logo design for tally up. So far no one has used my design ideas. Contest is worth 400 dollars if I can win it, i sure hope i do but if not it can be added to my portolio. There are currently over 50 designs entered in this one contest. so my odd are pretty slim at winning it but its about having a smart design and cleverly simple idea that aims at what the client is looking for. If i actually win one of these contest i can become known around the world for my design so that is a huge bonus. I kno i have the drive.

The Scriptures say…..

“that God designed

and created marriage as a good thing. It is a beautiful, priceless

gift. He uses marriage to help us eliminate loneliness, multiply

our effectiveness, establish families, raise children, enjoy

life, and bless us with relational intimacy. But beyond this,

marriage also shows us our need to grow and deal with our

own issues and self-centeredness through the help of a lifelong

partner. If we are teachable, we will learn to do the one

thing that is most important in marriage—to love. This powerful

union provides the path for you to learn how to love another

imperfect person unconditionally. It is wonderful. It is

difficult. It is life changing.

This book is about love. It’s about learning and daring to

live a life filled with loving relationships. And this journey begins

with the person that is closest to you: your spouse. May

God bless you as you begin this adventure.

But be sure of this: it will take courage. If you accept this

dare, you must take the view that instead of following your

heart, you are choosing to lead it. The world says to follow your

heart, but if you are not leading it, then someone or something

else is. The Bible says that “the heart is deceitful above all things,”

and it will pursue that which feels right at the moment.

We dare you to think differently, and to choose to lead

your heart toward that which is best in the long run. This is a

key to lasting, fulfilling relationships.

This journey is not a process of trying to change your

spouse to be the person you want them to be. You’ve no doubt

already discovered that efforts to change your husband or wife

have ended in failure and frustration. Rather, this is a journey

of exploring and demonstrating genuine love, even when your

desire is dry and your motives are low. The truth is, love is a

decision and not just a feeling. It is selfless, sacrificial, and

transformational. When love is truly demonstrated as it was

intended, your relationship is more likely to change for the

better.

Each day of this journey will contain three very important

elements:

First, a unique aspect of love will be discussed. Read each

of these carefully and be open to a new understanding of what

it means to genuinely love someone.

Secondly, you will be given a specific dare to do for your

spouse. Some will be easy and some very challenging. But take

each dare seriously, and be creative and courageous enough to

attempt it. Don’t be discouraged if outside situations prevent

you from accomplishing a specific dare. Just pick back up as

soon as it is within your ability and proceed with the journey.

Lastly, you will be given journal space to log what you are

learning, doing, and how your spouse is responding. It is important

that you take advantage of this space to capture what is

happening to both you and your mate during the journey.

These notes will record your progress and should become

priceless to you in the future.

Remember, you have the responsibility to protect and

guide your heart. Don’t give up and don’t get discouraged. Resolve

to lead your heart and to make it through to the end.

Learning to truly love is one of the most important things you

will ever do.

Now these three remain:

faith, hope, and love.

But the greatest of these is love

1 Corinthians 13:13 hcsb

If I speak with the tongues of men and of angles, but do not love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy, and know

all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.

1 Corinthians 13:1–3

Love is patient

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient,

bearing with one another in love. —Ephesians 4:2

Love works. It is life’s most powerful motivator, and has far

greater depth and meaning than most people realize. It always

does what is best for others, and can empower us to face the

greatest of problems. We are born with a lifelong thirst for love.

Our hearts desperately need it like our lungs need oxygen. Love

changes our motivation for living. Relationships become meaningful

with it. No marriage is successful without it.

Love is built on two pillars that best define what it is. Those

pillars are patience and kindness. All other characteristics of love

are extensions of these two attributes. And that’s where your

dare will begin. With patience.

Love will inspire you to become a patient person. When you

choose to be patient, you respond in a positive way to a negative

situation. You are slow to anger. You have a long fuse instead

of a quick temper. Rather than being restless and demanding,

love helps you settle down and begin extending mercy to those

around you. Patience brings an internal calm during an external

storm.

No one likes to be around an impatient person. It causes you

to overreact in angry, foolish, and regrettable ways. The irony of

anger toward a wrongful action is that it spawns new wrongs of

its own. Anger almost never makes things better. In fact, it usually

generates additional problems.

But patience stops problems in their tracks. More

than biting your lip, more than clapping a

hand over your mouth, patience is a deep breath. It clears the air.

It stops foolishness from whipping its scorpion tail all over the

room. It is a choice to control your emotions rather than allowing

your emotions to control you, and shows discretion instead

of returning evil for evil.

If your spouse offends you, do you quickly retaliate or stay

under control? Do you find that anger is your emotional default

when treated unfairly? If so, you are spreading poison rather

than medicine.

Anger is usually caused when the strong desire for something

is mixed with disappointment or grief. You don’t get what

you want and you start heating up inside. It is often an emotional

reaction that flows out of our own selfishness, foolishness, or

evil motives.

Patience, however, makes us wise. It doesn’t rush to judgment

but listens to what the other person is saying. Patience

stands in the doorway where anger is clawing to burst in, but

waits to see the whole picture before passing judgment. The Bible

says, “He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but

he who is quick-tempered exalts folly” (Proverbs 14:29).

As sure as a lack of patience will turn your home into a war

zone, the practice of patience will foster peace and quiet. “A hottempered

man stirs up strife, but the slow to anger calms a dispute”

(Proverbs 15:18). Statements like these from the book of

Proverbs are clear principles with timeless relevance. Patience is

where love meets wisdom. And every marriage needs that combination

to stay healthy.

Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human.

It understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made,

it chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct

it. It gives you the ability to hold on during the tough times in

your relationship rather than bailing out under the pressure.

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But can your spouse count on having a patient wife or husband

to deal with? Can she know that locking her keys in the

car will be met by your understanding rather than a demeaning

lecture that makes her feel like a child? Can he know that

cheering during the last seconds of a football game won’t invite

a loud-mouthed laundry list of ways he should be spending his

time? It turns out that few people are as hard to live with as an

impatient person.

What would the tone and volume of your home be like if

you tried this biblical approach: “See that no one repays another

with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for

one another”? (1 Thessalonians 5:15).

Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally.

But a wise man or woman will pursue it as an essential

ingredient to their marriage relationship. That’s a good starting

point to demonstrate true love.

This journey is a process, and the first thing you must resolve

to possess is patience. Think of it as a marathon, not a

sprint. But it’s a race worth running.

Dare….

The first part of this dare is fairly simple.

Although love is communicated in a number

of ways, our words often reflect the condition

of our heart. For the next day, resolve to

demonstrate patience and to say nothing

negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation

arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better

to hold your tongue that to say something

you’ll regret.

Answer these questions: Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate?

Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let

them come out in words? Was your spouse surprised by the

things you didn’t say?”

“Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. (James 1:19)”

Today I had some blood work done. My doc just wants to make sure everything it staying within normal range. He had them draw for 5 different panels and this time he had me fast for 12 hours before. Everything with that went fine, never even got light headed, so I was thankful. 27^th I see the doc.

Easter this year was crazy, to much family drama! So I wasn’t pleased since I was the one everyone was coming to, to vent on.  Don’t get me wrong I enjoyed seeing my three nephews and my sister but I could’ve done it without drama, oh well. Got a really nice picture of me and my sister Maryjo this time so I’m pleased with that. Brandon actually has turned into quite the paparazzi these days. Saw monsters vs. aliens in 3-d over Easter weekend with my nephews wasn’t impressed.

I think I may have broken my elbow. It’s actually crazy how it happened. I was pulling a shirt on and my arm slipped onto the lower half of the arm rest on my wheelchair directly on the elbow. Metal and elbows don’t mix well. I’m waiting it out until my appointment on the 27^th to ask the doc what he thinks. For now I’m numbing it with icing and that seems to make it tolerable.